Moms aren't immortal
Moms aren’t immortal
it seems to me that when we are children, we get a sense that our parents are omnipotent, omniscient, and immortal. They can do anything, seem to know everything, and will always be there for us. Maybe that isn’t the majority experience for people, but it was my experience, and apparently my belief.
reality check: Mom’s not immortal. Yes, The Mother as a concept is timeless, etc etc blah blah. But my mom isn’t immortal, even if I might secretly believe otherwise.
today I got a reminder of the reality: my mom’s got cancer. She went in today to have some surgery, female stuff, have a look at something they saw in a CAT scan, you know, do a biopsy, see what’s up with that. Well, what’s up with that was it was much more extensive than they expected, it’s moved onto other things, and she’s looking at chemo… with no gurantee of success.
My mom and dad aren’t that old, considering they have a 45 yr old son. Dad just turned 66 the other day, and mom’s a year younger. I realized that I’d never really thought about what if mom died first, frankly I’d pretty much avoided thinking about it altogether. But still, I hadn’t thought about the realities of my parents dying, other than occasionally I may have joked about what a job it’s gonna be for someone to empty my parents’ basement. (think I’m a packrat? heh heh heh.. I’m somewhat reformed, compared to my dad.
But I digress. Mom’s recovering, she’s got a morphine button, I’ll be able to talk to her tomorrow, perhaps.
Tonite I’m just stunned.