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Year 48, december 14 2009 - december 13, 2010

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Residence: city, state

Originating Circle

• Mom
• Dad
• Jean
• Peter

events

• first grade
• moved

Movies

• movie name
• movie namd

Books

• Book name
• Book name

Drugs

• Caffeine

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The Autobiography

The Autobiography is a tool for completing unworkable familiar and repetitive experiences, including ways of being and acting, strategies and ways life’s situations occurs to us. These experiences have seemed like they will never change; it seems as if we have no choice but to be discouraged or disappointed when certain situations occur in life.

This is a tool to complete those experiences from where they started, allowing you to be whole and complete, operating with all of your current capacities today.

Instructions To Prepare Your Autobiography

Create a book or electronic document with a section or page for every year of your life to date.

To best capture or portray each year, you could include things such as a picture of yourself at that age, a list of the people who were most important to you, personal life events and world events, popular culture of the time (movies, music, etc.)

You may also choose to create pages for your future 5 to 10 years that can be filled in with what you are committing to complete in the future, and what completing that will make available to you.

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The Autobiography In Practice

• Identify an aspect of life or a relationship that seems a particular way and it is not empowering, there is an experience of being constrained or a victim of the circumstances.

  Example: it seems I am always getting bossed around, or it seems like they don’t appreciate me, it seems like x is too hard.

• Identify and note how it all seems to you including the familiar ways of being and acting (your own as well as others), the mood or emotion, what “always” happens or has to happen, etc. …

• Locate the earliest, similar occurrence of this happening, or of life being this way.

• Identify the entire circumstance of that earliest occurrence – how old you were, who was there, what was said, or done – as best as you can look at the “facts” of it.

• Identify what exactly happened in that incident, how did you behave, and then what happened and what happened after that. Example: I was 9, Jon, Joe and Judy were there, Joe pushed me and I fell, Judy and Jon laughed. I curled up in a ball and cried. Judy called me a crybaby. After they walked away laughing, I went to my room and cried and then read a book. I avoided them after that.

• Allow yourself to be with and consider: that at that younger age, how you behaved was actually quite an intelligent way to deal with what was happening and what you made it mean. What you created, allowed you to make sense of something that you didn’t understand – it suddenly made no sense to you – it worked!

  Example: three against one – I’m weaker than they are, so I curled up in a ball and waited until they left. It was smart to separate myself and do something comforting. Smart to steer clear of them.

• Get clear for yourself in what ways this response was and continued to be a source of growth and development throughout your life.

  Example: I became strong at comforting myself and mastered extricating myself from situations that seemed dangerous. I developed myself to sense when “something was going to go down”

• Get for yourself – it was really smart and has been a contribution to who you are now and what you are now capable of, however, today, the earlier strategy and accompanying way of being (in the example, make myself weak and small) is totally unnecessary. In fact, it’s unworkable and causes you, your results, and sometimes the people around you, to suffer.

• ith your current capacities and abilities – what way would you like to be in those same circumstances now? Today, what you are now capable of?

  Example: I could be someone who has a voice, a means of responding, someone who continues to communicate, instead of retreating.

• Enter in your autobiography the year the incident happened, make some notes of what happened, who was around you at that time, maybe even things like the kinds of music, world events, or other key matters that were shaping both your and the world around you.

• You can also make notes in the current year [today] what way(s) you are now capable of, in fact committed to being in regards to this type of experience.