wisdom weekend2

July 24, 2025

Weekend Two

The Context of Weekend Two

Weekend Two was about getting clear about the actual state and condition of the relationships that matter most to you. Your commitments are fulfilled in relationship with these same people. This exploration allows you to see the current potential of your commitments being fulfilled.

The Tip

“Give it up, you don’t want it anyway“

This tip is created for you to discover the possibility that you, your life and the world is whole and complete, just the way it is (which includes the way it is not).

The Tip In Practice:

Engaging in life from this tip, for example, when something is not working the way we intended, planned or predicted and we are left upset, frustrated or disappointed, an opportunity for workability is presented to us. Namely, letting go (giving up) the disempowering meaning we added to what is happening such that we are present and available to make the difference we are out to make in life.

The Recommended Investigation

With the relationships most important to you, consider elevating the potential of your commitments being fulfilled. Start by creating a gap and taking consistent action, for example: start talking about something new in the relationship or create a clearing for new dialogue to occur. This could be new immediate, structural, or generative conversations. It also can include new representational conversations

Structural: It is the movement of yourself as an object (no meaning in it – just the presence of the movement). Our structural language is mostly habitual.

Immediate: It is the emotion expressed. It has nothing to do with meaning or internal states. It is all out here, between us and other animals. We have very familiar and limited ways we express emotion.

Generative: Creates new space for life to happen, one form of Generative Language is sharing. (Sharing does not include an in order to – it is sharing to share) There’s more life, participation, relationship, and expression that becomes available when you share yourself. There is a presence of a new possibility, or opening. (This presence does not stick around, it is expressed, then it is gone. However, the memory of it is not)

Representational: Talking about, referring to, and/or describing something. This includes the meaning we express about something, the story about something.

The Assessment Tool

Fulfillment lives in the relationships with the people we’re in conversation with about our commitments in life and the matters important to us. To assess the potential of fulfilment in our lives, we examine the current state and condition* of the relationships on our fulfillment display. Each weekend we will look from a particular vantage point.

State and Condition: the way something is organized, the attributes you would give the quality of the relationship, and/or the way in which something (in this case the relationship) operates or works.

This assessment is based on what the relationship is now capable of, which is sometimes very different from how you think or feel about the relationship. To effectively assess what the relationship is capable of, it’s necessary to be able to set aside your opinions and feelings which are usually based in a past-based version of the relationship.

Instructions To Complete Your Assessment Tool:

Starting from your Fulfilment Display which includes ALL the areas of your life important to you [your commitments], AND the people you communicate with most about each of those areas…

Assessment Tool - Choose a form of the tool you want to use:

To make a copy of a Google sheet version, go to link. This will copy a version to your Google drive; if you’re not already signed in to your Google, it will ask you to sign in. We recommend you bookmark it so you can access each remaining weekend.

To download the Excel version, go to https://drive.google.com/uc?export=download&id=19tmcpGzjjKqKcU_laX80rCo3xGeQBaA5, then open from your downloads, and save in a location you can access each weekend.

You will find the instructions for each row of the file in the first column.

Select the tab at the bottom of the file corresponding to the current weekend, starting now with WE 2.
Establish which of the commitments (areas of life most important to you) from your Fulfillment Display and type them into row 6. You can include up to 10 commitments.
Select up to 3 relationships for each commitment. It’s recommended you select the top 3 people you communicate with most about each commitment. Note: it’s likely you will have some of the same people with different commitments. Consider the relationship when you are interacting about each commitment to arrive at the discrete assessment.
Complete the assessment of the relationship with each person or entity by answering each question in ‘column A’ based on the scale in the corresponding darker blue row. For example: Scale 1-5 (1 = rarely, 3 = Sufficient, 5 = reliably). You can enter any number you wish including decimal points such as 3.5.
The Overall Rating (row 23) is automatically calculated based on the individual ratings you entered. To protect the functionality of the tool, there are certain cells in the sheet you cannot change, and if you attempt to change them, you will get an error message: “There was a problem”. Click “OK” and enter your response in an available cell.

The Assessment Tool in Practice:

Following each ensuing weekend of the course, you will be invited to complete a new assessment based in the context of the weekend and the development of the relationship, over time.
You will see tabs at the bottom of the file labeled WE 2, WE 3, WE 4, and WE 5

a. The information you enter for WE 2 steps #3 and #4 above, will automatically be included when you complete the assessment in each ensuing weekend (WE 3, WE 4, etc.)


b. Your ratings from each weekend (WE 2, WE 3, WE 4, WE 5)  will be saved on these separate tabs of your file.

The ‘Summary Data Tab’ is the display of your ratings from each weekend. This tab is automatically created.

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